The First Step To Stopping Domestic Abuse

By Jayne Rutledge


Domestic abuse or spousal violence is the act of one partner forcefully trying to subdue or dominate the other partner by means of fear. Now the dominating party may use of violence, threats, blackmail, or any other means in order to control the subdued partner. Of course if this type of act is to be stopped, it is always important to understand and recognize it first.

Now one thing about spousal violence is that it discriminates no one which means that it may happen to anyone. Whether one may be old or young, male or female, black or white, this type of act may actually happen and will create a lot of long term traumas when it comes to marriage and partnership. This is how bad this kind of abusive act and the extent of the effects would go really far.

Now abusive behavior is actually not an overnight thing wherein the dominating partner becomes abusive the next day. Actually, one would usually start first from a verbal form which usually comes in the form of small and petty insults or put downs. From there, humiliating and hurtful words might spring up in the process.

Of course the hurtful words and belittling acts may lead up to outward violence such as hitting and slapping. Now usually, the violence would start out light like slaps to the face or to the arm. However, if it is left unattended, the dominating partner may actually start hitting the subdued spouse really hard.

Of course there is something that is definitely very uncalled for which is known as sexual abuse. Now of course it is the men who are more likely to do this instead of the women. This is a form of rape wherein the man would actually force his spouse to have sex with him in a way that could actually hurt her or injure her.

Of course the signs of being a victim of this kind of behavior is actually quite obvious. If one acts very timid and seemingly scared in front of his or her spouse, then it is actually obvious that something is going in their house. Usually, victims would be on their toes and watching out for their actions as they are scared of offending their spouses.

Of course one of the major causes of this kind of behavior would simply be low self esteem on the part of the dominating partner. Since the dominating partner has low self esteem, then he or she would actually take out the frustration on the partner. This in turn will help him or her gain some self confidence in himself or herself because he or she does not feel like he or she amounts to anything.

Now the reason why domestic abuse is very dangerous to anyone is simply because it can cause long term effects emotionally. It can make a person lose confidence in himself or herself and may actually affect their personality in general. It is for this main reason that this sort of activity has to stop because no one deserves such treatment.




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