So I hate to break it to you, but I've never actually hugged a porcupine.
But in this metaphor, I have.
So bear with me for a second.
Relationships are incredibly complicated.
Friendships, romantic relationships, developing relationships...and pretty much any type of relationship between two people out there in this world. People are messy, life gets incredibly messy, and the fact that we can get along with all of the crazy things going on in our world is an absolute miracle.
When you throw in thoughts and emotions life starts to get even more complicated.
But there's something really to be said about "being there" for people despite all of the complexities of life. There's something to be said for being someone's rock when everything seems to be falling apart around them.
We all need someone to put our back up against when times get tough. The reality is, we actually all really need that person in our life. We need someone to talk to, to express our deepest fears and our greatest wishes, our worries, doubts, fears, insecurities and everything else in between.
But that takes vulnerability and vulnerability is one of the scariest things in the world.
It's going to take you breaking down your walls and barriers and really confiding in someone else. You don't censor your life. You don't hide the nasty parts of your character. You just show people who you are.
The beautiful part of all of this?
You give someone the opportunity to take care of you and love you for who you are.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and they love you to death for knowing all of those flaws you've so desperately tried to hide from the world.
We all, deep down, are thirsting for a love that seems to be harder and harder to come by these days.
So remember that when people are out there in the world really hurting, suffering, and facing challenges, they can be a bit prickly like a porcupine sometimes...
Give those people a hug.
Nourish them. Love them. Take care of them. Break down their walls and barriers if they don't have the courage to do it themselves. Stand right in front of them and say, "I love you exactly the way you are...no matter what version that may be right now. I'm right here."
That's true love. That's the good stuff.
That's not asking someone to be anything but who they are.
That's how we all deserve to be loved.
That' what we deserve.
But in this metaphor, I have.
So bear with me for a second.
Relationships are incredibly complicated.
Friendships, romantic relationships, developing relationships...and pretty much any type of relationship between two people out there in this world. People are messy, life gets incredibly messy, and the fact that we can get along with all of the crazy things going on in our world is an absolute miracle.
When you throw in thoughts and emotions life starts to get even more complicated.
But there's something really to be said about "being there" for people despite all of the complexities of life. There's something to be said for being someone's rock when everything seems to be falling apart around them.
We all need someone to put our back up against when times get tough. The reality is, we actually all really need that person in our life. We need someone to talk to, to express our deepest fears and our greatest wishes, our worries, doubts, fears, insecurities and everything else in between.
But that takes vulnerability and vulnerability is one of the scariest things in the world.
It's going to take you breaking down your walls and barriers and really confiding in someone else. You don't censor your life. You don't hide the nasty parts of your character. You just show people who you are.
The beautiful part of all of this?
You give someone the opportunity to take care of you and love you for who you are.
You become imperfectly perfect to them and they love you to death for knowing all of those flaws you've so desperately tried to hide from the world.
We all, deep down, are thirsting for a love that seems to be harder and harder to come by these days.
So remember that when people are out there in the world really hurting, suffering, and facing challenges, they can be a bit prickly like a porcupine sometimes...
Give those people a hug.
Nourish them. Love them. Take care of them. Break down their walls and barriers if they don't have the courage to do it themselves. Stand right in front of them and say, "I love you exactly the way you are...no matter what version that may be right now. I'm right here."
That's true love. That's the good stuff.
That's not asking someone to be anything but who they are.
That's how we all deserve to be loved.
That' what we deserve.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Kindness Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/kindness-quotes/ or these Sympathy Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/sympathy-quotes/ to get some motivation to move forward!
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